Why Your Diet Isn’t Working. And, It’s Not Your Fault.

Let me guess: you’ve done the detoxes, counted every almond, skipped the breadbasket, tracked calories like a part-time accountant and you still feel bloated, exhausted, and betrayed by your stretchy pants.

It’s not about willpower. It’s not your fault.

We’ve been sold a massive lie that dieting is a matter of discipline. That if we just wanted it badly enough, we’d look like a fitness model who eats nothing but boiled chicken and dreams in burpees. But science and real-life experience says otherwise. It’s about biology, misinformation, and a diet culture that needs to be put on a permanent cleanse.

The Myth of Willpower: Why You're Not Broken

It’s a well-known fact that dieting doesn’t work. Not long-term. Studies show that 95% of diets fail, and most people regain the weight, plus interest.

The body doesn’t care about your summer goals. It cares about survival. When you restrict calories too much or too long, your body slows your metabolism, messes with your hunger hormones (like leptin and ghrelin), and holds on to fat like it’s prepping for a famine.

The Real Reasons Your Diet Isn’t Working

1. Your Hormones Are Not on Board

Cortisol, insulin, estrogen are hormonal heavy hitters responding to stress, sleep, and blood sugar like a hormonal soap opera. High cortisol equals belly fat, cravings, and burnout.

2. Gut Issues Are Running the Show

If SIBO, histamine intolerance, celiac or IBS are crashing the party, even “healthy” food can cause chaos. That bloating, brain fog, or post-salad fatigue? It’s not in your head. Gut health runs the show, from mood to metabolism, and cutting more foods usually backfires.

3. Your Blood Sugar Is on a Rollercoaster

Skipping meals or snacking on “healthy” granola bars sets off a blood sugar spike-and-crash circus. Cue hanger, cravings, and cortisol.

4. You’re Undereating (Yes, Really)

Surprise! Eating too little tanks your metabolism, saps your energy, and leads to muscle loss. If you’re always cold, craving sugar, and foggy, you’re probably undernourished. You need more strategic fuel, not less.

5. Your Nervous System Is Fried

Chronic stress = chronic cortisol = stalled weight loss. When you’re in fight-or-flight mode, digestion shuts down and fat storage kicks in. Deep breathing, gentle movement, and saying “no” to what drains you is not a luxury, it’s metabolic medicine.

What Actually Works (That No One’s Telling You)

Forget extremes. Forget shame. Start focusing on addition, not restriction:

• Add fiber-rich plants, anti-inflammatory fats like fatty fish (salmon, tuna, sardines), olive oil, walnuts, flaxseeds, avocados, and dark chocolate and quality protein.

• Support your gut with gentle foods and smart supplements.

• Prioritize sleep, nervous system regulation, and joy (joy is medicine).

Healing isn’t about control. It’s about collaboration with your body.

How to Start Healing Your Relationship With Food

Ready for action?

• Track how you feel after meals, not just the calories

• Add nutrient density before eliminating joy

• Work with someone who sees your bio-individuality (hi, I’m someone)

You’re Not a Failure

You don’t need a new diet. You need a new approach.

You’re not broken. You’re not lazy. You’ve just been taught the wrong playbook. Your body is trying to communicate, and it’s time we started listening.